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Why I Decided To Freeze My Eggs

I am a single woman choosing to empower myself by freezing my eggs before I turn 40. Why? It is estimated that about 1 in 4 children experience some form of sexual abuse growing up. Chances are someone close to you has been coping with a similar trauma in secret for most of their life. When I was nine years old I was sexually abused by someone close to our family. My parents were supportive, but I was so traumatized that I would not let them find me a therapist.

I don’t want other kids to ever have the experience that I had, of being too ashamed and full of self-doubt to have a normal childhood and adolescence. This affected my grades in school, my career, and my relationships and friendships. It also affected my family. I will never get those years back, and that’s a truth I face every day.

My goal in being so open is to make the point to others that we need to remove the stigma from childhood sexual abuse. Taboos keep victims isolated, cut off from the support of friends, family and survivors. This prolongs the deleterious effects into adulthood, furthering the damage already done.

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When I was ready, during my early thirties, I found a wonderfully supportive and practical therapist who was also an abuse survivor, yet happily married with five kids. Working with her changed me. I left my career in publishing and since then have worked in the nonprofit field.

All of this has been a true blessing, but at the same time I’ve had to face the fact that my lost time could keep me from ever having children of my own. Please help me by sharing this story with others, forwarding my link, http://shar.es/FjFLB, or making a donation to help me towards my goal. THANK YOU. ☺ 

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