Why I Decided To Freeze My Eggs

I am a single woman choosing to empower myself by freezing my eggs before I turn 40. Why? It is estimated that about 1 in 4 children experience some form of sexual abuse growing up. Chances are someone close to you has been coping with a similar trauma in secret for most of their life. When I was nine years old I was sexually abused by someone close to our family. My parents were supportive, but I was so traumatized that I would not let them find me a therapist.

I don’t want other kids to ever have the experience that I had, of being too ashamed and full of self-doubt to have a normal childhood and adolescence. This affected my grades in school, my career, and my relationships and friendships. It also affected my family. I will never get those years back, and that’s a truth I face every day.

My goal in being so open is to make the point to others that we need to remove the stigma from childhood sexual abuse. Taboos keep victims isolated, cut off from the support of friends, family and survivors. This prolongs the deleterious effects into adulthood, furthering the damage already done.

When I was ready, during my early thirties, I found a wonderfully supportive and practical therapist who was also an abuse survivor, yet happily married with five kids. Working with her changed me. I left my career in publishing and since then have worked in the nonprofit field.

All of this has been a true blessing, but at the same time I’ve had to face the fact that my lost time could keep me from ever having children of my own. Please help me by sharing this story with others, forwarding my link, http://shar.es/FjFLB, or making a donation to help me towards my goal. THANK YOU. ☺ 

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mary p. ayer March 01, 2014 at 08:45 AM
Terrible ---and happy she is ok now---but--- I am puzzled as to what the abuse has to do with her eggs !! Why are we hearing about this "private" decision? I do think she has some other issues if she needs to brodcast freezing her eggs. We all face or have faced sad experiences during our lives---but I prefere not to linger over them and move on to better , happy lives.
J.B March 01, 2014 at 11:56 PM
Way too much sharing. I think you should speak to your therapist about why you feel the need to broadcast like this. I also agree with the other commenter that this has nothing to do with freezing your eggs.
carrie weisenfeld March 03, 2014 at 09:58 AM
why do we need to know about you freezing your eggs?
Alfred E. Wilson March 20, 2014 at 08:12 PM
Strange disconnect in your opening paragraph; why are you freezing your eggs?
Peter Lake, LAKE Real Estate June 14, 2014 at 11:33 AM
As I understand it she's freezing her eggs so she can have children later in life, since she endured lost time because of sexual abuse. Kind of like stashing papers in a box and putting them in storage so you can sort them when you have time. Whether that's going to work or not is another question, but that's my understanding of why she's freezing her eggs.


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